Comments for My cat is fearful of everyone
Not easy but by: Anonymous I have 12 cats and believe me females most of the time are a bit more hesitant and fearful towards people even if they are their owners. I have one that she was so withdrawn from the rest that we couldn’t even pet her let alone see her around while we were having guests.As you have only one it must be easier than it was for me to socialize her but as she doesn’t have any other models of cat behavior around she might be more hesitant as well.1) Don’t push her! aka don’t try to pet her when you see that she is frightened (It might be all the time as it was with mine) or simply she keeps her distance. Make her come to you. Let her take a sniff of your fingers. If she doesn’t leave and try to pet herself with your hand you are not as far from earning her complete trust as you thik.2) Find something she likes. Food its okay but don;t spoil her as she will take it for granted. With mine it was kisses. She was really curious at first by the butterfly kissing sound. 3) Give her the space she needs and when you see her calm enough pet her just once (Than means just a stroke on her fur)4) As time goes by she will trust you more and you will be able to pet her more. I had to wait 6-7 months to pet her more forcefully and like it or play with tail.5) Let her sleep with you. Open your personal space to her but don’t force her to stay in a room that doesn’t like.6) It will take time and my advise it would be to not let her alone with strangers (aka guests). IMPORTANT!!!Before you try the above try to remember if you had children come by in your house lately. A new dog or a stray female cat in the neighborhood? Do you have a cleaning lady? If yes, does your cat reacts badly in the sight of the broom she uses? Your cat may have been abused somehow and you may have missed all the signs or she might now surfacing whatever happened to her as a kitten. Be patient she will be worth it at the end.Remember that cats are not dogs. They don’t obey anyone and its easier to break them emotionally when they are young.
Have Patience by: Anonymous Try having people stop by more often. Have them give your cat a treat or catnip while they are there. The more a cat see’s people, the more they get used to them. It WILL take time. We worked with a feral cat for 4 years before it came inside with us and now sleeps in our bed! When we first saw him, just eye contact with him would make him run away! Good luck!